5 Life Lessons My Father Taught Me Before He Died

My father died 13 days ago and it has taken me awhile to write this post because I’m not sure where to start. SO, during my reflection process, I want to note some of his most memorable lessons to me.

My father was a very respectful and respected man. The time we spent together and the abundance of memories we created will always be golden. During the last 22 years, he has imprinted on my heart and has taught me things that will prove to be very useful on this journey of life.

Toughen up

He would say this to me this all of the time, and he’s right. I would always call him or mom crying because of something I’m going through (me and my emotional Pisces ways), and they would always offer me the best advice they could. I have a great support system, but my mother and father were my armor. The moment my father physically left me, I felt as though I have lost a battle and part of my armor fell off, leaving me naked and vulnerable. The only way to get rid of that feeling is to take his advice and to toughen up, and I am growing more into this concept every day. I’m not exactly sure how this will manifest into my life just yet, but losing him has shown me and I am stronger than I give myself credit for.

The Same Thing That Makes You Laugh, Can Make You Cry

His motto.

His saying always kept me humble. You never know how life is going to turn out, and you never know who you may need one day. “One day everything is going well and the same thing that made your life great can bring you pain.” I always kept this in my thoughts and considered this when making decisions, especially the ones that would impact other people.

My interpretation of this may not match his entirely, but I took his saying and made it applicable to me based on my personal life experiences, and he wouldn’t be mad at that. 🙂

Have a Heart Full of Gold










My dad wasn’t perfect, but his heart was so pure. He was one of the funniest people I’ve ever encountered, and his positive energy was contagious. His presence was acknowledged and addressed as soon as he walked in the room, yet he was very smooth and never drew too much attention to himself (minus the two gold pinky rings! LOL!)

My dad cared about people so much, almost to a fault. For the people he cared about, he gave his money, gave his energy, and gave his time until he had nothing left to give.

Enjoy Life & Live for the Moment

It’s what my dad did best! My father would never sit still, ever! What I loved most about him was that he found the fun in everything he pursued. I will always cherish riding shotgun in my his car as he drove through the streets of Cincinnati as though he owned a racecar! The bass of his music vibrating our seats and the AC blasting with the windows cracked always reminded me of how alive I was; of how I alive I felt with him.

Own Your Mistakes

“Dad, why did you and mom get divorced?” I would ask this question more than I should, but he would always give me a thoughtful profound answer every time. I would never fully understand, but one thought that remained the constant every time he shared this story was “Your mother and I both made our mistakes”

He would never run away from that fact with me. The older I got and the more I continued to grow, the more honest and open he was with me. Our relationship was always blossoming and evolving and it saddens me to think that our physical journey stops here.

Never completely tell your hand

He lived and died by this.

He didn’t trust easily, and if he did it was because he knew you would have his back through thick and thin and you earned a place in his heart.

I definitely earned mine. ❤️


Thank you dad, for everything. You were my favorite Sagittarius, my favorite Fire Element. As my favorite fire element, you stood up for me, and As your favorite water element, I calmed you down and brought you peace. You will forever be my light; forever be my flame.

This is the first of many articles of my grieving process, but I have to start somewhere.

Any tips? Where do I start? How does daddy’s little girl accept the death of her daddy?

I will continue to make you proud, this is only the beginning.














P.S. It wouldn’t be right if I didn’t include one of his many theme songs in this post  : ) ”

“Not The Only One” 

-Kevin Gates

Please Rest In Peace Love. I Will See You Soon.



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15 Replies to “5 Life Lessons My Father Taught Me Before He Died”

  1. That was beautiful. I can tell that you and your father had a very special bond. Your thoughts were heartfelt and honest. I pray that you find comfort at this time, remembering all that you meant to your father. Please know that our prayers are for you and your family at this time. Much love from you 242🇧🇸 Family❤️❤️❤️❤️😍

  2. This just gave me chills and opened my heart! I love you and your dad maddi!!! I’m so happy you were able to make this!

    1. thank you so much! Writing this post helped me process my thoughts a little more:) I’m really glad you enjoyed it.

  3. That was a very powerful and emotional reflection of what every parent should teach their child. Your father’s time on this earth may have been cut short, but he did leave his mark. Thank you for sharing.

  4. Madelyne, I am so extremely proud of you and I know your dad is too as well as your mom and the rest of your family. You have inspired me today with your grace and love for your dad and I pray that you are comforted during your time of need and that you receive revelation after revelation concerning the growth you seek throughout your healing process. Be well and I am always here if you need me.

  5. Maddy, I’m so sorry for your loss! My father means the world to me as well, and I can’t imagine losing him, nor what you’re going through.

    This was a very beautiful post, though, and he should be proud.

  6. Ive read this time and time again lil cuz this will hit home for alot people its powerful and inlighting… I will share this to help many people around our country… I love u cousin ur dad was a very great MAN.. We instantly connected real recognize real…

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